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Happy Kids – What’s Reslience Got to Do With It?

Happy Kids – What’s Reslience Got To Do With It? 

Being a parent is the most challenging job any of us will have!   

This session is designed for curious parents who would like to explore ways they can give their child fresh possibilities to adapt to the challenges of life.

In this 3 hour session you will learn ways to – 

  • Teach your child how to adapt to frustrating times. Become their life mentor.
  • Help your child’s learning experience to become easier and more effective 
  • Become aware which parenting styles get the best for you and your children
  • Elicit calm responses with your child when you have to communicate topics which could be stressful 
  • Improve their self esteem
  • Develop enjoyable loving sibling relationships

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My workshops respond to the group dyanamic, hence they are ‘flexible’.  Take away your learning, practice and personalise it to suit your family. Come back to learn and practice some more to create together a family that can cope with change, pick themselves up and move on with everyday challenges.

Happy Parents, Happy Kids. 

£50.

The first 3 and repeating customers will enjoy our special rate of £30 

It will be held in Guildford.

I also offer one to one programmes and support, and Skype sessions.  

Find me on Linked In –  JaneTyson.co.uk 

I’m a mum, teacher of 20 years in private, public and international settings, have a BA Hons in Education and Psychology. teach meditation and yoga to children and families and have a Life Long Passion in exploring ‘What Makes People Tick’.  

Guildford, Surrey – Book Here

Feedback from my workshops  –

‘Excellent workshop, well structured offering practical advise in an understanding and nurturing environment’

‘I just wanted to say thank you for your great advice during last workshop. Now every time I’m about to react instead of respond I see you tapping your nose and I take a deep breath’.

‘Really enjoyed the workshop and felt like I have some good ideas to remind me to be in the right frame of mind when dealing with my children’s emotions and behaviours’

‘I enjoyed the atmosphere of helping each other, suggestions and reminders’

‘It’s clear that Jane practices what she teaches’

‘A great workshop which helped me to look for ways to create a more peaceful and happy environment with my children’

‘Jane was friendly and informative. Sharing great ideas to make a happier household’

‘Thank you for the inspiration’

‘A very interesting and straight forward approach’

‘Jane was very knowledgeable and enthusiastic and keen to help’

‘The workshop was very interactive with great relevant content’

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Glugs Wine, Listens to Silence

Are you Tuned in?

Just imagine being together as a family and really listening to each other, responding, and emotionally tuning in. Can you hand on heart say you do this, that nobody is distracted by anything else going on? You are truly present and in the moment… ah nice.  Then the kids have a disagreement, it escalates, and it all goes horribly wrong, (keeping it real) and it does, let’s face it.  What do you do in the eye of the storm – mum or dad in the middle?  Is their argument a result of unresolved conflict,which the kids are too upset about and maybe too immature to let go of.  Perhaps, they haven’t had a space to talk about their upset or be listened to?  Does it ever feel just a little like groundhog day?

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Decline in Listening Skills 

Research has found a significant decrease in children’s listening skills over the past decade,  can you guess why? I wonder too if this doesn’t apply to adults and sitting together as a family.  I’ve put together a ‘listening’ programme which  I’m sharing with the children and colleagues  I teach alongside  in school.

Meanwhile, parent(s) finishes meal and glugs more wine and enjoys listening to silence, and tunes out. Silent is listen rearranged.

What do you DO after a family UPSET, how does it leave you feeling and what’s that like?

What do you Need?

How do we create time for family connection, spaces to talk to one another and be heard?

Today, just become AWARE of the above.  And Pause. (a previous blog about Pausing) .  I have a photo of an owl, which reminds me to  listen, notice and be wise. Often, I think of the owl when I have a quiet time or meditate. Perhaps imagery will help you too?

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I’ll share listening ideas on my social media page this week. @FrustrationExpert

I hear you

So right now what do you need? What can make family life calmer?

Each month, I’m  creating a regular morning of family connection which will respond to your needs and those of your  family, it will be ‘agile’ and ‘flexible’ and at the moment in Guildford, venue tbc. I hear you.

What do you like best?

What could help you to disconnect from all the busyness of life, to be more present and bonded as a family? Have a read of this link here  and see what you like best about the mornings. Come along with your children to learn some of these simple skills and take them away to use with your family between sessions. You will feel more relaxed, more present to listen and this will filter across family life. Plus they’ll be ongoing support for you between meet ups. If your children prefer not to join you then come by yourself, as I’ll share ideas for you to use at home. 

Seeking Open Hearts & Curious Minds

Please do share this with any family you think would benefit from joining us. I’ve not specified ages, just a willingness to give it a go with an open heart and curious mind.

Jane x

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‘Miss, The Elephants’

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‘Please put that back where you found it,  hurry up and get back into line,’ words shouted to a 6 year old child in a school I was teaching in a while ago. The little girl had a ladybird in the palm of her hand and was showing it to a friend.  She set the ladybird free and lined up in the straight line with all the other children.

‘Miss, the elephant’ 

A teaching mentor once advised me ‘Don’t be the teacher who misses the elephant walking past the classroom’

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When I was teaching in Tanzania, we often had monkeys visiting the classroom, no matter how many times they came in to steal crumbs from the floor the kids got distracted and excited. At the time, I was also studying to ‘BE’ a mindfulness teacher and completing a yoga teaching course, so despite feeling irritated,  I reminded myself to be present with the experience, have a 10431412_10152530791344789_4232260385897800258_obeginners mind with the visits and to see them through the children’s fresh curious eyes!

The children also used to love the large birds that perched on the telephone wires outside and sometimes we’d all just stand by the windows watching them. We’d find out what they were called, researching the photos in our small collection of bird spotting books and of course if the electricity and internet were working we’d use google.

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Lessons From the Ladybird

After the ladybird was set free,  I went back to class to tell my children about it and found out what they knew about them.  We looked at photos online of  different ladybirds, found out where they lived,  counted the different spots and introduced the word symmetry, little children love big words and there’s so many avenues still to explore. We added this learning to the slug, snails and power ranger interest zone.

Monkey Minds

Often I talk with the children about their busy monkey minds, and teach them ways to settle and calm ourselves, largely because I ‘need’ them to be quiet on the carpet.  Kids are naturally curious, playful and present, are we teaching them to be busy, distracted and stressed?

I Missed the Elephant

Whilst typing this I forgot to pay attention, the birds have been singing outside all the while and I didn’t notice –  I missed the elephant.

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Seize the day.

A PLAYce to BE

I’m facilitating a PLAYce to BE You on the 14th October at Clandon Wood near Guildford in Surrey. You might like to join in and notice the beautiful nature reserve with us. Why not come along and take a couple of hours out to just BE. Info here. 

If you would like me to come and talk to your organisation about simple ways to get present, please email me jane@janetyson.co.uk.

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Adults stop playing because they worry they might fall over.

A Lesson From the Brownies 

Another ‘Random’ workshop with the Brownies this evening.
 
Before we did some moves, mindset and mindlessness, I did a little research for my ‘adult’ playful / random / mindlessful workshop this Saturday and asked them 3 questions –
 

What does the word ‘play’ mean to you? –

 
Friends
Games
Tablet
Donuts
 

‘Why Do Adults Stop Playing’?

 
Because of us
They haven’t got time
They give up
They can’t play, don’t know how to
Too old to be chased
Worried about falling over
We are faster than them and they get frustrated they can’t keep up
 

‘Why Do You Like To Play?’

 
  • Relax
  • Fun
  • Exercise
  • Problems go away
  • Builds Imagination
  • Reminds us that fun is important
  • Laughter is the best medicine
  • Gives us something to do
Adults what do you reckon to the Brownies list?
 
Next week I’m with teens at a Youth Club
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What Will You Settle On Today?

What will you settle on today?

Some people love being preoccupied with thoughts.

Thoughts provide them with constant entertainment, interaction, they believe thinking is important.

They are addicted to distraction and fearful of boredom, inner silence, or feeling alone without them.

Our minds are often likened to busy monkeys leaping from tree to tree or butterflies fluttering from flower to flower.

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We are good at multitasking, reacting, and scanning for the pleasant, unpleasant or neutral and choosing all the time between them.

Life is fast paced, work is busy, families are doing, schools are cramming…

So what can we settle on today to stabilise our mind and respond more to situations?

How can we allow the butterfly to settle, the monkey to still?

Jane Tyson

Meditation – Do you ‘THINK’ it’s boring

Is Meditation Boring? 

Are you interested in meditation? Do you have a regular practice? Would you like to give it a go but are not sure how to? I’ve heard friends say they just can’t do it, it’s impossible not to think and it’s boring!

I’ve written this as another one of my ‘How I‘ blogs and and not a ‘How To‘, with the intention that it might just give you the nudge to get started.  At times, yes meditation can be boring so you explore ways to  sit with the boredom, in the same way you’ll discover ays to ‘be’ with the upsets, the joy, the anger, the frustrations etc

Will Events Still Piss Me Off?

Yes. Some days I meditate for just 20 minutes and when I do my day flows well, I am more present with the ups and downs,  I’m calmer with my kids and the ones I teach, and I notice I manifest more positivity.  Stuff still goes on and things piss me off but for some reason it never matters so much and I’m less likely to get caught up in the drama in a negative way. I’m more neutral and sure of who I am and how I am being around it.

How I Meditate. 

I wake up early anyway, so often go downstairs to the sofa cross my legs, close my eyes and just breathe and ‘be’. It is an effort because I want to do lots of other things at the same time, plus it’s cold, dark and boring to sit on the sofa on my own, yet I have so learned to love and cherish this peace and quiet and the benefits it brings.  If I lay in bed it’s not quite the same as sitting up awake and present to what’s going on.

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I have practiced yoga for 25 years and always enjoyed the corpse relaxation pose at the end, but never quite unerstood ‘meditation’ until about 4 years ago and now life wouldn’t ‘be’ the same.

Be Patient, Patience is Wisdom

When I was teaching out in Tanzania the school paid for me to go on a course to learn how to teach mindfulness. This week I was reading through some of the notes I took from my mentor Adam from Mindspace,  and they served as a good re-MIND-er for me –

  • Build up a rhythm and a regular simple practice
  • ‘I’ve no time’ means I’ve no intention
  • Be patient, patience is wisdom, often we think it is not working
  • A bigger picture gives a lot more power to practice
  • You cannot teach it unless you are doing it
  • You will find it easy to make decisions and naturally have more confidence
  • Meditation helps you to develop a loving kindness for others

If you’d like to learn How To there’s many apps out there to get you going, courses, lots of great books which I can also recommend, and I can also guide you.

Notice How Bored You Are

However,  if this all sounds like a lot to do why not do what I do and just sit now and close your eyes and brshine-from-your-souleathe and notice. And when you notice what you notice, notice a bit more and just be with what you notice.  After a while you may like to just be with your breathing – in and out, in and out, in and out, in and out, in and out, and the rise and fall of your chest, the weight of your body on the chair, the touch of your skin on your clothes.
If you notice other things too like being bored,  that’s OK, just notice when you do and then notice your breath again.
Try this for a while and notice whether you’d like to do it again another time and read this again as a re-MIND-er.

I slipped into a How To but it’s also How I.

You may like to come along to my talk here.

Jane Tyson

 

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