The Story of IamBe
IamBe was a Greek Goddess, the daughter of Pan and Echo.
One day, whilst working close to the city of Athens, Iambe met Demeter. Demeter had come down to earth from the heavens, consumed with grief for the loss of her daughter Persephone, who unknown to her had been kidnapped by Hades in the underworld. Demeter was not eating, drinking, talking or smiling and this was also depleting and destroying the surrounding lands. In one account, Iambe in an act of sisterhood, connects and communicates with Demeter’s head and heart by flashing at her and telling jokes, which shocks Demeter, makes her laugh and transforms her state of grief! Demeter begins to eat, drink and smile again, which restores balance and harmony to the lands and people around.
So why am I writing about this story? In 2016, I developed a ‘communication, connection & collaboration’ model to create fresh perspective and possibilities for adults and children. As a result they experience:
💜improved inner wellbeing
💜more empowering relationships
💜greater clarity and focus
💜improved productivity and efficiency
💜fewer power struggles
Play, Poetry & Possibilities
I was searching for a word to encompass my model. At one point, as I often do, I looked up to the sky and requested a word and 3 days later ‘IAmBe’ arrived at Waterloo Station.
Sipping tea and waiting for a grieving friend in a coffee shop called BeNuGo at London Waterloo, I considered this name, was it a play on words – be nu go? My Random Dialogues partner and I, AyPee (RIP) had also been reciting a mantra linked to our combined transformational BeSayDoHaveⒸ model:
‘I am who I say I AM
Because what I say I am
That is who I am’ Ⓒ
So in the spaces, I questioned who ‘I am BEing’ and played with these words and created IamBE. Upon Googling it I found out she was the goddess who communicates and connects through Play and Poetry, perfect and random, this is exactly what a #FrustrationExpert does 😉
Frustration leads to breakthroughs and more empowering changes of state.
What a great way to BE
In the meantime perhaps you are experiencing ‘frustration’ in an aspect of your grown up life. Perhaps you are struggling to get a new idea off the ground and need an experienced mentor to sound out your ideas with. Someone to guide and help you develop your ideas. Allow me to metaphorically Flash at you and help realign you with who you are and what you LOVE to BE. 😉
You may enjoy walking and talking with me, sitting and sipping or skyping.
Playful collaborations always considered
NB: To BE Or Not To BE?
‘Iambic’ verse also stems from Iambe’s name and her jokes and playful nature, it was often used by Shakespeare in his plays and sonnets, an example being ‘To Be or not to Be’.
‘I Am that I Am’ the common English translation of the response God used in the Hebrew Bible when Moses asked for his name (Exodus 3:14).
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#iambeic #frustrationexpert #randomdialogue
Did you know that simply sitting for 2 minutes each morning and exploring a a little quiet time to check in with you can make a big difference to your day. You may enjoy meditation, journalling, listening, chantingc whatever works, go with your flow, nobody is watching. 🙃
During this time maybe set an intention for how you would like to BE today in the busyness of your day.
I enjoy creating a word of the day and today, it is ‘courage’.
It’s None Of My Business
There’s something on my mind and I’m going to say it today. And it will be none of my business how those around me react or respond.
Anytime AnyPlace Anywhere
Morning’s been and gone and you were too busy? That’s OK you can do this anytime, anyplace, anywhere. Allow yourself a little time out to just BE
We will explore more on resilience at this monthly workshop. I’m running one for adults and one for children. More info here
How about you, would love to hear your word of the day.
#frustrationexpert #courage #intention
A Random Diablog
Is there a colour you are drawn to in this moment and have you considered why?
As a child, my father encouraged my sister and I to ‘Think Purple’. Presently, I’m enjoying purple and am exploring its meanings. My sister wrote a blog on it, as she named her art studios in Australia ‘Think Purple Art Studios’, so I’ve pasted snippets of her reflections below-
💜What is Think Purple?💜
To ‘Think purple’ means to live every moment in the perfect balance of joy, happiness and positivity. Living a life in this way is contagious and rubs off on the people we come into contact with on a daily basis.
The colour purple calls for creative doings and seeks inspiration and originality through its creative effort. It likes to be unique, individual and independent, not one of the crowd.
Purple is gender-less and contains just the right amount of masculine and feminine tones. It is a way of being and living in the moment.
I noticed these flowers on a walk into Guildford earlier today.
What’s your colour of the moment and do you know why? 💜
In 2014 whilst trekking in the Usembero Mountains in Tanzania, I decided I’d like to explore meditation more, so I said out loud: ‘Dear Universe, I’d like to find a meditation mentor please.’ The next morning I was up really early to go on a dawn chorus/bird spotting walk, in these stunning mountains.
I got chatting to a lady called Elizabeth from Belize who I’d had a few conversations with back at the huts, and found out she was a Yoga and Meditation teacher. She truly was. She embodied all that was beautiful, peaceful, and kind about the practices and I was very inspired by her. She gave me direction on where to start and later sent me this poem -.
I’m creating Random Notes of Wisdom and posting them on my Instagram page #frustrationexpert.
Please do write one of yours in the comments below, and I’ll make and share one for you.
Happy Kids – What’s Resilience Got To Do With It?
Being a parent is the most challenging job any of us will have!
This session is designed for curious parents who would like to explore ways they can give their child fresh possibilities to adapt to the challenges of life.
In this 3 hour session you will learn ways to –
- Teach your child how to adapt to frustrating times. Become their life mentor.
- Help your child’s learning experience to become easier and more effective
- Become aware which parenting styles get the best for you and your children
- Elicit calm responses with your child when you have to communicate topics which could be stressful
- Improve their self esteem
- Develop enjoyable loving sibling relationships
My workshops respond to the group dyanamic, hence they are ‘flexible’. Take away your learning, practice and personalise it to suit your family. Come back to learn and practice some more to create together a family that can cope with change, pick themselves up and move on with everyday challenges.
Happy Parents, Happy Kids.
The first 3 and repeating customers will enjoy our special rate of £30
It will be held in Guildford.
I also offer one to one programmes and support, and Skype sessions.
Find me on Linked In – JaneTyson.co.uk
I’m a mum, teacher of 20 years in private, public and international settings, have a BA Hons in Education and Psychology. teach meditation and yoga to children and families and have a Life Long Passion in exploring ‘What Makes People Tick’.
Guildford, Surrey – Book Here
Feedback from my workshops –
‘Excellent workshop, well structured offering practical advise in an understanding and nurturing environment’
‘I just wanted to say thank you for your great advice during last workshop. Now every time I’m about to react instead of respond I see you tapping your nose and I take a deep breath’.
‘Really enjoyed the workshop and felt like I have some good ideas to remind me to be in the right frame of mind when dealing with my children’s emotions and behaviours’
‘I enjoyed the atmosphere of helping each other, suggestions and reminders’
‘It’s clear that Jane practices what she teaches’
‘A great workshop which helped me to look for ways to create a more peaceful and happy environment with my children’
‘Jane was friendly and informative. Sharing great ideas to make a happier household’
‘Thank you for the inspiration’
‘A very interesting and straight forward approach’
‘Jane was very knowledgeable and enthusiastic and keen to help’
‘The workshop was very interactive with great relevant content’
Are you Tuned in?
Just imagine being together as a family and really listening to each other, responding, and emotionally tuning in. Can you hand on heart say you do this, that nobody is distracted by anything else going on? You are truly present and in the moment… ah nice. Then the kids have a disagreement, it escalates, and it all goes horribly wrong, (keeping it real) and it does, let’s face it. What do you do in the eye of the storm – mum or dad in the middle? Is their argument a result of unresolved conflict,which the kids are too upset about and maybe too immature to let go of. Perhaps, they haven’t had a space to talk about their upset or be listened to? Does it ever feel just a little like groundhog day?
A Decline in Listening Skills
Research has found a significant decrease in children’s listening skills over the past decade, can you guess why? I wonder too if this doesn’t apply to adults and sitting together as a family. I’ve put together a ‘listening’ programme which I’m sharing with the children and colleagues I teach alongside in school.
Meanwhile, parent(s) finishes meal and glugs more wine and enjoys listening to silence, and tunes out. Silent is listen rearranged.
What do you DO after a family UPSET, how does it leave you feeling and what’s that like?
What do you Need?
How do we create time for family connection, spaces to talk to one another and be heard?
Today, just become AWARE of the above. And Pause. (a previous blog about Pausing) . I have a photo of an owl, which reminds me to listen, notice and be wise. Often, I think of the owl when I have a quiet time or meditate. Perhaps imagery will help you too?
I’ll share listening ideas on my social media page this week. @FrustrationExpert
I hear you
So right now what do you need? What can make family life calmer?
Each month, I’m creating a regular morning of family connection which will respond to your needs and those of your family, it will be ‘agile’ and ‘flexible’ and at the moment in Guildford, venue tbc. I hear you.
What do you like best?
What could help you to disconnect from all the busyness of life, to be more present and bonded as a family? Have a read of this link here and see what you like best about the mornings. Come along with your children to learn some of these simple skills and take them away to use with your family between sessions. You will feel more relaxed, more present to listen and this will filter across family life. Plus they’ll be ongoing support for you between meet ups. If your children prefer not to join you then come by yourself, as I’ll share ideas for you to use at home.
Seeking Open Hearts & Curious Minds
Please do share this with any family you think would benefit from joining us. I’ve not specified ages, just a willingness to give it a go with an open heart and curious mind.