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Walk Slowly – Random Notes of Wisdom

In 2014 whilst trekking in the Usembero Mountains in Tanzania, I decided I’d like to explore meditation more, so I said out loud: ‘Dear Universe, I’d like to find a meditation mentor please.’¬† The next morning I was up really early to go on a dawn chorus/bird spotting walk, in these stunning mountains.

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Elizabeth teaching my daughter the art of laying still.

I got chatting to¬† a lady called Elizabeth from Belize who I’d had a few conversations with back at the huts, and found out she was a Yoga and Meditation teacher. She truly was. She embodied all that was beautiful, peaceful, and kind about the practices and I was very inspired by her.¬† She gave me direction on where to start and later sent me this poem -.

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I’m creating Random Notes of Wisdom and posting them on my Instagram page #frustrationexpert.

Please do write one of yours in the comments below, and¬† I’ll make and share one for you.

Jane

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Happy Kids – What’s Resilience Got to Do With It?

Happy Kids ‚Äď What’s¬†Resilience¬†Got¬†To¬†Do With It?¬†

Being a parent is the most challenging job any of us will have!   

This session is designed for curious parents who would like to explore ways they can give their child fresh possibilities to adapt to the challenges of life.

In this¬†3¬†hour¬†session you will learn¬†ways to –¬†

  • Teach your child how to adapt to frustrating times. Become their life mentor.
  • Help your child‚Äôs learning experience to become easier and more effective¬†
  • Become aware which parenting styles get¬†the¬†best for you and your children
  • Elicit calm responses with your child when you have to communicate topics which could be stressful¬†
  • Improve¬†their self esteem
  • Develop¬†enjoyable loving¬†sibling relationships

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My workshops respond to the group¬†dyanamic,¬†hence¬†they are ‘flexible’.¬† Take away¬†your learning, practice and personalise it to suit your family. Come back to learn and practice some more to create together a family that can cope with change, pick themselves up and move on with everyday challenges.

Happy Parents, Happy Kids. 

£50.

The first 3 and repeating customers will enjoy our special rate of £30 

It will be held in Guildford.

Book here 

I also offer one to one programmes and support, and Skype sessions.  

Find me on Linked In –¬† JaneTyson.co.uk¬†

I’m a mum, teacher of 20 years in private, public and international settings, have a BA Hons in Education and Psychology. teach meditation and yoga to children and families and have a Life Long Passion in exploring ‘What Makes People Tick’.¬†¬†

Guildford, Surrey –¬†Book Here

Feedback from my¬†workshops¬† –

‘Excellent workshop,¬†well structured¬†offering practical¬†advise¬†in an understanding and nurturing environment’

‘I just wanted to say thank you for your great advice during last workshop. Now every time I’m about to react instead of respond I see you tapping your nose and I take a deep breath’.

‘Really enjoyed the workshop and felt like I have some good ideas to remind me to be in the right frame of mind when dealing with my children’s emotions and behaviours’

‘I enjoyed the atmosphere of helping each other, suggestions and reminders’

‘It’s clear that Jane practices what she teaches’

‘A great workshop which helped me to look for ways to create a more peaceful and happy environment with my children’

‘Jane was friendly and informative. Sharing great ideas to make a happier household’

‘Thank you for the inspiration’

‘A very interesting and straight forward approach’

‘Jane was very knowledgeable and enthusiastic and keen to help’

‘The workshop was very interactive with great relevant content’

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Glugs Wine, Listens to Silence

Are you Tuned in?

Just imagine being together as a family and really listening to each other, responding, and emotionally tuning in. Can you hand on heart say you do this, that nobody is distracted by anything else going on? You are truly present and in the moment… ah nice.¬† Then the kids have a disagreement, it escalates, and it all goes horribly wrong, (keeping it real) and it does, let’s face it.¬† What do you do in the eye of the storm – mum or dad in the middle?¬† Is their argument a result of unresolved conflict,which the kids are too upset about and maybe too immature to let go of.¬† Perhaps, they haven’t had a space to talk about their upset or be listened to?¬† Does it ever feel just a little like groundhog day?

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A Decline in Listening Skills 

Research has found a significant decrease in children’s listening skills over the past decade,¬† can you guess why? I wonder too if this doesn’t apply to adults and sitting together as a family.¬† I’ve put together a ‘listening’ programme which¬† I’m sharing with the children and colleagues¬† I teach alongside¬† in school.

Meanwhile, parent(s) finishes meal and glugs more wine and enjoys listening to silence, and tunes out. Silent is listen rearranged.

What do you DO after a family UPSET, how does it leave you feeling and what’s that like?

What do you Need?

How do we create time for family connection, spaces to talk to one another and be heard?

Today, just become AWARE of the above.  And Pause. (a previous blog about Pausing) .  I have a photo of an owl, which reminds me to  listen, notice and be wise. Often, I think of the owl when I have a quiet time or meditate. Perhaps imagery will help you too?

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I’ll share listening ideas on my social media page this week. @FrustrationExpert

I hear you

So right now what do you need? What can make family life calmer?

Each month, I‚Äôm¬† creating a regular morning of family connection which will respond to your needs and those of your¬† family, it will be ‚Äėagile‚Äô and ‚Äėflexible‚Äô and at the moment in Guildford, venue tbc. I hear you.

What do you like best?

What could help you to disconnect from all the busyness of life, to be more present and bonded as a family? Have a read of this link¬†here¬†¬†and see what you like best about the mornings. Come along with your children to learn some of these simple skills and take them away to use with your family between sessions. You will feel more relaxed, more present to listen and this will filter across family life. Plus they’ll be ongoing support for you between meet ups. If your children prefer not to join you then come by yourself, as I’ll share ideas for you to use at home.¬†

Seeking Open Hearts & Curious Minds

Please do share this with any family you think would benefit from joining us. I’ve not specified ages, just a willingness to give it a go with an open heart and curious mind.

Jane x

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‘Miss, The Elephants’

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‘Please put that back where you found it,¬† hurry up and get back into line,’ words shouted to a 6 year old child in a school I was teaching in a while ago. The little girl had a ladybird in the palm of her hand and was showing it to a friend.¬† She set the ladybird free and lined up in the straight line with all the other children.

‘Miss, the elephant’¬†

A teaching mentor once advised me ‘Don’t be the teacher who misses the elephant walking past the classroom’

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When I was teaching in Tanzania, we often had monkeys visiting the classroom, no matter how many times they came in to steal crumbs from the floor the kids got distracted and excited. At the time, I was also studying to ‘BE’ a mindfulness teacher and completing a yoga teaching course, so despite feeling irritated,¬† I reminded myself to be present with the experience, have a 10431412_10152530791344789_4232260385897800258_obeginners mind with the visits and to see them through the children’s fresh curious eyes!

The children also used to love the large birds that perched on the telephone wires outside and sometimes we’d all just stand by the windows watching them. We’d find out what they were called, researching the photos in our small collection of bird spotting books and of course if the electricity and internet were working we’d use google.

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Lessons From the Ladybird

After the ladybird was set free,¬† I went back to class to tell my children about it and found out what they knew about them.¬† We looked at photos online of¬† different ladybirds, found out where they lived,¬† counted the different spots and introduced the word symmetry, little children love big words and there’s so many avenues still to explore. We added this learning to the slug, snails and power ranger interest zone.

Monkey Minds

Often I talk with the children about their busy monkey minds, and teach them ways to settle and calm ourselves, largely because I ‘need’ them to be quiet on the carpet.¬† Kids are naturally curious, playful and present, are we teaching them to be busy, distracted and stressed?

I Missed the Elephant

Whilst typing this I forgot to pay attention, the birds have been singing outside all the while and I didn’t notice –¬† I missed the elephant.

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Seize the day.

A PLAYce to BE

I facilitate a monthly PLAYce to BE and the next one is Saturday April 28th venue tbc, usually it’s at Clandon Wood near Guildford in Surrey or somewhere equally peacefully. Why not come along and take a couple of hours out to just BE. Info¬†here.¬†

If you would like me to come and talk to your organisation about simple ways to get present, please email me jane@janetyson.co.uk.

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Your children can learn simple ways to be calm, connected and emotionally balanced

Your children can learn simple ways to be calm, connected and emotionally balanced. It is very easy to do.

The State We Are In 

Recently I visited a school and Brownie Pack. ¬†I shared ideas with the children of ways to create changes of ‚Äėstate‚Äô in our minds and bodies and how we get in a state in the first place!

Wired Or Tired?

I taught them how to create more energy and enthusiasm when they feel tired and ways to be calmer when they feel wired.

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I was able to demonstrate how self-talk influenced their results. Words they say to themselves influence how they feel and how their body¬† also has it’s own language which influences them both negatively and positively.

Give Me Five 

These are some of the techniques I shared with the teachers and children in school today which you might also enjoy at home. It takes just 5 minutes here and there…

Just Listen Sitting with legs crossed, Close your eyes or gaze at a spot on the floor and just listen to the sounds in our bodies then take this listening to sounds which are nearby and outside.

earSome of the children sat quietly and others found it hard to be still and quiet, ¬†with regular practice children notice more sounds and sit listening for longer periods of time. It’s also good to write down the sounds and see over time how many more can be added to the list.

Walking Tall ‚Äďwalk tall with smiles on your face. When we meet each other, stop, breath and smile.

This activity was fun for the children and helped them to enjoy and notice each other more and gain awareness of what was going on around them in the present moment. They got ‘present’.

Body Tapping – tap your bodies from head to toe and then use an imaginary sponge to rub your arms, backs, tummies, legs and feet and noticed how your bodies tingle afterwards. Notice how this improves your circulation, raises your energy levels and wakes you up.
This is a great exercise to do in the mornings.

Movement РI weaved in a yoga story too with 5 simple moves, I’ve written about ways to implement yoga into family life before here

Square breathing ‚Äď I drew a square on the board, at home I draw a pretend square on my children‚Äôs backs, and then I traced along the square with my finger and as I did this we breathed in slowly for 4 and out for 4, this can be repeated for as long as you like, there are no rules.

After each exercise I asked the children and teachers to notice how they feel. Some said they felt calmer, relaxed and sleepy whilst some said they didn’t feel any different. There are no wrong or right answers, it was for them simply to bring awareness to the experiences.

So you probably now realise how simple it is for your children to learn how to be calm, connected and emotionally balanced and just how easy it is to do. And when we do these activities alongside them we create this in ourselves too.

How I Help Adults & Children Relax

I support schools, businesses, families, children, groups and individuals who are feeling frustrated. I am presenting a talk entitled ‚ÄėHow I Help Adults and Children Relax‚Äô on the 6th June in Guildford details here, ¬†a Contented Parenting workshop for frustrated parents in September details here¬†¬†a Mindfulness For All session here and co presenting with AyPee a Social Media support session for people frustrated with Social Media ¬†in September.

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Hishy, Hashy, Hoshy

A Random Diablog

Laughter, Play and Poetry

I am an IamBic Master Practitioner – ¬†IamBe was the goddess of Laughter, Play and Rhyme,¬†¬†I’ve written about her before here.¬†My Communication and Connection Model is based on these principles with metaphorical flashing! ¬†For may years I have explored the benefits of ¬†‘play’ in both little and big people and most mornings I set an intention to be playful¬†and to not sweat the small stuff.

This week, I found a vintage red suitcase in a skip, I’m often on the look out for them, ¬†it was a bit rusty and tired but it was perfect for my random¬†lifestyle. ¬†Inside were a few vintage books including ¬†‘Indoor & Community Games‘ by Sid G Hedges 1943, an exciting find (do I need to get out more?)

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Connection & Communication Through Play

Since the introduction of the PS4 games console in the house, there has been a lot of falling out over fair usage, screen time – ‘it’s so unfair our friends get to play on it all night’ and when they do come off there’s noticeable irritability and stress and this coupled with a hormonal pre-teen. Later today, when my husband returns we are having our weekly family meeting about the best way forward with these frustrations.

The kids and I have been having a lot of fun reading the book and playing some of the simple games. They have relaxed and¬†connection and communication has been restored. They’ve just walked to Sainsburys together too, hopefully they will sustain this friendship on their adventure and not part company in the frozen ailse.

Enjoy these Games 

Here are a couple of the simple games we’ve explored and enjoyed –

Giant Sneeze 

Split into 3 teams and appoint these 3 names – Hishy, Hashy, Hoshy
Count to 3 and then call out the name assigned to the person or team in unison and loudly to create a giant sneeze!

Laughing Game РRollicking Fun! 

‘Someone of merry disposition is chosen to lead the game and sits in the middle of the room. He tosses up a handkerchief and immediately breaks into a rollicking laugh. Everyone else must laugh too, and the laughing must continue as long as the handkerchief is in the air. But the instant that it touches the floor every face must become stern again, and anyone who shows even the slightest trace of a smile is compelled to drop out of the game. The handkerchief is then thrown up a fresh and the game goes on until all the players have been disqualified’¬†

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I love this smelly old random book, it’s going to continue to be played with.

Jane x

It’s free to join our meet up group, come and play!
See also my Twitter video about this – @JaneTyson

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What’s in Our Hearts – Creating Deeper Connections

In tomorrow’s playful Movement, Mindset & Mindfulness session especially for kids –
 
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Children will –
 
  • engage in circle time with story telling, positive self talk and neyoga-for-kids-feb-to-march-posterws sharing
  • notice how to ‘globally’ listen
  • explore further ‘personal responsibility’
  • create heart maps of the people, places and things they value and love most
  • develop a deeper connection and understanding of ‘self care’ in order to enhance their relationships with others too
  • learn more about growth mindset and brain plasticity
 
Plus child led games, yoga, QiGong and the odd mindful bundle
 
Saturday workshops especially for teens coming soon.
 
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