Someone or Something Frustrating You?
Repeat this 5 times –
Repeat this 5 times –
Your children can learn simple ways to be calm, connected and emotionally balanced. It is very easy to do.
Recently I visited a school and Brownie Pack. I shared ideas with the children of ways to create changes of ‘state’ in our minds and bodies and how we get in a state in the first place!
I taught them how to create more energy and enthusiasm when they feel tired and ways to be calmer when they feel wired.
I was able to demonstrate how self-talk influenced their results. Words they say to themselves influence how they feel and how their body also has it’s own language which influences them both negatively and positively.
These are some of the techniques I shared with the teachers and children in school today which you might also enjoy at home. It takes just 5 minutes here and there…
Just Listen – Sitting with legs crossed, Close your eyes or gaze at a spot on the floor and just listen to the sounds in our bodies then take this listening to sounds which are nearby and outside.
Some of the children sat quietly and others found it hard to be still and quiet, with regular practice children notice more sounds and sit listening for longer periods of time. It’s also good to write down the sounds and see over time how many more can be added to the list.
Walking Tall –walk tall with smiles on your face. When we meet each other, stop, breath and smile.
This activity was fun for the children and helped them to enjoy and notice each other more and gain awareness of what was going on around them in the present moment. They got ‘present’.
Body Tapping – tap your bodies from head to toe and then use an imaginary sponge to rub your arms, backs, tummies, legs and feet and noticed how your bodies tingle afterwards. Notice how this improves your circulation, raises your energy levels and wakes you up.
This is a great exercise to do in the mornings.
Movement – I weaved in a yoga story too with 5 simple moves, I’ve written about ways to implement yoga into family life before here
Square breathing – I drew a square on the board, at home I draw a pretend square on my children’s backs, and then I traced along the square with my finger and as I did this we breathed in slowly for 4 and out for 4, this can be repeated for as long as you like, there are no rules.
After each exercise I asked the children and teachers to notice how they feel. Some said they felt calmer, relaxed and sleepy whilst some said they didn’t feel any different. There are no wrong or right answers, it was for them simply to bring awareness to the experiences.
So you probably now realise how simple it is for your children to learn how to be calm, connected and emotionally balanced and just how easy it is to do. And when we do these activities alongside them we create this in ourselves too.
I support schools, businesses, families, children, groups and individuals who are feeling frustrated. I am presenting a talk entitled ‘How I Help Adults and Children Relax’ on the 6th June in Guildford details here, a Contented Parenting workshop for frustrated parents in September details here a Mindfulness For All session here and co presenting with AyPee a Social Media support session for people frustrated with Social Media in September.
Yesterday my son was talking to me (well at me), we were on our way to karate and he was really excited about moving up a level to ‘spar‘ and spent a looooong time telling me all about it. I was distracted, my mind was elsewhere on work and actually hands up, I was a little bored of listening!
I took a breath and acknowledged to myself that I wasn’t with him and set an intention to BE present and enjoy his company, despite the uninsparring conversation.
I parked the car, looked at him and checked in to where we both were, I breathed with him and tilted my head to match his tilt, I listened to his words and brought myself to the present moment and engaged more with his excitement and enthusiasm, I noticed my 12 year old boy-man. I became present to BEing with him, I sensed his energy and he bought me home again, we relaxed together, his conversation slowed and he noticed me too.
Tonight he has been teaching me how to play a PS4 game called OverWatch and again I was rather distracted and keen to get on with making tea! I once again connected with him and enjoyed his joy at spending time with me, and just how excited he was to teach me how to be in his virtual world and once more guide me out of mine.
Come learn how we use our BE SAY DO HAVE Ⓒ model and join in the conversation –
Let’s face it, every family needs and wants calm, joy and emotional balance. We hear it all the time.
Most family members have something to say and they don’t feel they can or they don’t feel that they are being heard.
It’s part of the family dynamic – ‘The family Upset’.
How about having a strategy to fix that? Simple, effective, easy to do and leaving your family members surprised by how powerful and relaxed you have become?
Join us on Thursday 15th June for an interactive and fun workshop, with people who would like to share intelligent and unusual conversations around parenting.
You will be surprised.
Probably the family connection and communication model you have been looking for.
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Kids spending too much time on screens, overloaded with homework, stressed out over friendships, ignoring your requests to help out around the house repeatedly?
These Monday sessions will provide fresh air, fun and opportunities to explore ways they can take more ‘responsibility’ for themselves.
For Kids of all ages –
Sutherland Park Grounds, Guildford
Mondays 5.30pm – 6.30pm
Plus Tuesday 4th April 2017 10am – 12am
Mum, Primary School Teacher, Yoga & Mindfulness for Kids, Parenting Support, IamBe Practitioner
Laughter, Play and Poetry
I am an IamBic Master Practitioner – IamBe was the goddess of Laughter, Play and Rhyme, I’ve written about her before here. My Communication and Connection Model is based on these principles with metaphorical flashing! For may years I have explored the benefits of ‘play’ in both little and big people and most mornings I set an intention to be playful and to not sweat the small stuff.
This week, I found a vintage red suitcase in a skip, I’m often on the look out for them, it was a bit rusty and tired but it was perfect for my random lifestyle. Inside were a few vintage books including ‘Indoor & Community Games‘ by Sid G Hedges 1943, an exciting find (do I need to get out more?)
Connection & Communication Through Play
Since the introduction of the PS4 games console in the house, there has been a lot of falling out over fair usage, screen time – ‘it’s so unfair our friends get to play on it all night’ and when they do come off there’s noticeable irritability and stress and this coupled with a hormonal pre-teen. Later today, when my husband returns we are having our weekly family meeting about the best way forward with these frustrations.
The kids and I have been having a lot of fun reading the book and playing some of the simple games. They have relaxed and connection and communication has been restored. They’ve just walked to Sainsburys together too, hopefully they will sustain this friendship on their adventure and not part company in the frozen ailse.
Enjoy these Games
Here are a couple of the simple games we’ve explored and enjoyed –
Split into 3 teams and appoint these 3 names – Hishy, Hashy, Hoshy
Count to 3 and then call out the name assigned to the person or team in unison and loudly to create a giant sneeze!
Laughing Game – Rollicking Fun!
‘Someone of merry disposition is chosen to lead the game and sits in the middle of the room. He tosses up a handkerchief and immediately breaks into a rollicking laugh. Everyone else must laugh too, and the laughing must continue as long as the handkerchief is in the air. But the instant that it touches the floor every face must become stern again, and anyone who shows even the slightest trace of a smile is compelled to drop out of the game. The handkerchief is then thrown up a fresh and the game goes on until all the players have been disqualified’
I love this smelly old random book, it’s going to continue to be played with.