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What is a #FRUSTRATIONExpert?

Why I am a #FRUSTRATIONExpert & IAmBeic Practitioner  😉

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To Flash or not To Flash – The Story of IamBe

​IamBe was a Greek Goddess,  the daughter of Pan and Echo.

One day, whilst working close to the city of Athens, Iambe met Demeter. Demeter had come down to earth from the heavens, consumed with grief for the loss of her daughter Persephone, who  unknown to her had been kidnapped by Hades in the underworld.  Demeter was not eating,  drinking, talking or smiling and this was also depleting and destroying the surrounding lands. In one account,  Iambe in an act of sisterhood, connects and communicates with Demeter’s head and heart by flashing at her and telling jokes, which shocks Demeter, makes her laugh and transforms her state of grief! Demeter begins to eat, drink and smile again,  which restores balance and harmony to the lands and people around.

Feeling Frustrated? 

So why am I writing about this story?  In 2017, I developed a ‘communication, connection & collaboration’ model to create fresh perspective and  possibilities for adults and children. As  a result they experience:

💜improved inner wellbeing
💜more empowering relationships
💜less stress
💜greater clarity and focus
💜more confidence
💜improved self-esteem
💜improved productivity and efficiency
💜fewer power struggles

Play, Poetry & Possibilities

I was searching for a word to  encompass my model.   At one point, as I often do,  I looked up to the sky and requested a word and 3 days later ‘IAmBe’  arrived at Waterloo Station.

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Sipping tea and waiting for a grieving friend in a coffee shop called BeNuGo at  London Waterloo,  I considered this name, was it a play on words – be nu go? My Random Dialogues partner and I, AyPee (RIP) had also been reciting a mantra linked to our combined transformational BeSayDoHaveⒸ model:

‘I am who I say I AM
Because what I say I am
That is who I am’ Ⓒ

​So in the spaces, I questioned who ‘I am BEing’ and played with these words and created IamBE. Upon Googling it I found out she was the goddess who communicates and connects through Play and Poetry,  perfect and random, this is exactly what a #FrustrationExpert does 😉

Frustration leads to breakthroughs and more empowering changes of state.

What a great way to BE

So if you are Frustrated allow me to metaphorically Flash at you and help realign you with who you are and what you LOVE to do. 😉

Contact Me:-

You may enjoy walking and talking with me, sitting and sipping or skyping.

Playful collaborations always considered

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NB: To BE Or Not To BE?

‘Iambic’ verse also stems from Iambe’s name and her jokes and playful nature, it was often used by Shakespeare in his plays and sonnets, an example being ‘To Be or not to Be’.

‘I Am that I Am’ the common English translation of the response God used in the Hebrew Bible when Moses asked for his name (Exodus 3:14).

Image via https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Baubo

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A Random Diablog – Distrackted

A Random DiaBlog

How Often Do you Notice you are Dis-Trackted?

Our path in life is not always clear, actually it’s pretty unclear for most of us. For those of you who have worked out your main route (congratulations), you might notice though how often you get side-tracked, dis-track–ted, or even lost, but that’s all just perfectly how it’s meant to be.
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Sometimes, it maybe just a little tiring not feeling on track,  it might be like being pulled in different directions and even trodden on.
When we do slow down and take time out, how easy do you find it to be quiet and gentle on yourself? There’s always lots of other things we need to DO and our head is busy thinking about them… a wash to put on, a meal to cook, a blog to write,  shopping to buy, kids to collect, paperwork to complete, an email to answer, a room to decorate, a lawn to mow, a car to hoover…  I’ve met people who feel guilty if they sit down. It’s really important to allow yourself time out though, whatever it is that helps you to settle and quieten, to get back on one of your tracks.

Wake Up and Smell The Trees

Whichever path you are on,  remember to look up and smell the trees, take time to pause and be gentle and kind to you.

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It may help to visualise roots growing from your feet holding you strong and  supporting you.

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Take a few nice deep breathes to slow your pace and just notice.

Wherever I lay my path, that’s my home 

Just imagine the path is running through you, down through your centre, it is you. You are the path.  Where you are is your path. And by noticing where you and imagining this path, it may help you to stay more aligned with it and help you to place it gently onto the course you’d like it be on once more.
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Everything is a perfect path, it’s OK to get sidetracked and distrackted all part of the twists and turns of life .

The Possibility of Courage

Take 2

Did you know that simply sitting for 2 minutes each morning and exploring a  a little quiet time to check in with you can make a big difference to your day.  You may enjoy meditation, journalling,  listening, chantingc  whatever works,  go with your flow, nobody is watching. 🙃

During this time maybe set an intention for how you would like to BE today in the busyness of your day.

I enjoy creating a word of the day and today, it is ‘courage’.

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It’s None Of My Business

There’s something on my mind and I’m going to say it today. And it will be none of my business how those around me react or respond.

Anytime AnyPlace Anywhere 

Morning’s been and gone and you were too busy? That’s OK you can do this anytime, anyplace, anywhere.  Allow yourself a little time out to just BE

We will explore more on resilience at this  monthly workshop. I’m running one for adults and one for children. More info here

How about you, would love to hear your word of the day.

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A Random DiaBLOG on Snow Monks

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Half Term Zen

This week during half term,  we visited our friend Yeshe Trinley, a monk at the Kagyu Samye Ling Monestery in Scotland. We were staying with our cousins in Carlisle.  so it was only an hours drive away.

The Monastery really is a hidden gem, and anyone can stay or visit, it’s in the top 10 Scottish visitor attractions. It even has a a lovely coffee shop and free WiFi 🙄 There’s a wonderful selection of events on each month, so tempted by them all.

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We also went for a beautiful walk with Trinley. I always have a million questions about life, the universe and conciousness and how to create world peace 🤣

Meanwhile, my children and their cousins loved playing in the snow, they were totally engaged for a good couple of hours. They made a snow monk.

And there was me distracted with Trinley learning more about how to meditate and be present and my  teachers are infront of me, already totally peaceful and playful and I’m not properly noticing!

Play is childrens’ natural state, it’s the space they create from.

No Need To Meditate Just Play!

Kids teach us how to be playful and present and we teach them how to to DO!

Notice, Breathe, Play, BE.

We are the light, we just need to remember to switch it on.

Jane x

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Walk Slowly – Random Notes of Wisdom

In 2014 whilst trekking in the Usembero Mountains in Tanzania, I decided I’d like to explore meditation more, so I said out loud: ‘Dear Universe, I’d like to find a meditation mentor please.’  The next morning I was up really early to go on a dawn chorus/bird spotting walk, in these stunning mountains.

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Elizabeth teaching my daughter the art of laying still.

I got chatting to  a lady called Elizabeth from Belize who I’d had a few conversations with back at the huts, and found out she was a Yoga and Meditation teacher. She truly was. She embodied all that was beautiful, peaceful, and kind about the practices and I was very inspired by her.  She gave me direction on where to start and later sent me this poem -.

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I’m creating Random Notes of Wisdom and posting them on my Instagram page #frustrationexpert.

Please do write one of yours in the comments below, and  I’ll make and share one for you.

Jane

Glugs Wine, Listens to Silence

Are you Tuned in?

Just imagine being together as a family and really listening to each other, responding, and emotionally tuning in. Can you hand on heart say you do this, that nobody is distracted by anything else going on? You are truly present and in the moment… ah nice.  Then the kids have a disagreement, it escalates, and it all goes horribly wrong, (keeping it real) and it does, let’s face it.  What do you do in the eye of the storm – mum or dad in the middle?  Is their argument a result of unresolved conflict,which the kids are too upset about and maybe too immature to let go of.  Perhaps, they haven’t had a space to talk about their upset or be listened to?  Does it ever feel just a little like groundhog day?

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Decline in Listening Skills 

Research has found a significant decrease in children’s listening skills over the past decade,  can you guess why? I wonder too if this doesn’t apply to adults and sitting together as a family.  I’ve put together a ‘listening’ programme which  I’m sharing with the children and colleagues  I teach alongside  in school.

Meanwhile, parent(s) finishes meal and glugs more wine and enjoys listening to silence, and tunes out. Silent is listen rearranged.

What do you DO after a family UPSET, how does it leave you feeling and what’s that like?

What do you Need?

How do we create time for family connection, spaces to talk to one another and be heard?

Today, just become AWARE of the above.  And Pause. (a previous blog about Pausing) .  I have a photo of an owl, which reminds me to  listen, notice and be wise. Often, I think of the owl when I have a quiet time or meditate. Perhaps imagery will help you too?

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I’ll share listening ideas on my social media page this week. @FrustrationExpert

I hear you

So right now what do you need? What can make family life calmer?

Each month, I’m  creating a regular morning of family connection which will respond to your needs and those of your  family, it will be ‘agile’ and ‘flexible’ and at the moment in Guildford, venue tbc. I hear you.

What do you like best?

What could help you to disconnect from all the busyness of life, to be more present and bonded as a family? Have a read of this link here  and see what you like best about the mornings. Come along with your children to learn some of these simple skills and take them away to use with your family between sessions. You will feel more relaxed, more present to listen and this will filter across family life. Plus they’ll be ongoing support for you between meet ups. If your children prefer not to join you then come by yourself, as I’ll share ideas for you to use at home. 

Seeking Open Hearts & Curious Minds

Please do share this with any family you think would benefit from joining us. I’ve not specified ages, just a willingness to give it a go with an open heart and curious mind.

Jane x

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‘Miss, The Elephants’

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‘Please put that back where you found it,  hurry up and get back into line,’ words shouted to a 6 year old child in a school I was teaching in a while ago. The little girl had a ladybird in the palm of her hand and was showing it to a friend.  She set the ladybird free and lined up in the straight line with all the other children.

‘Miss, the elephant’ 

A teaching mentor once advised me ‘Don’t be the teacher who misses the elephant walking past the classroom’

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When I was teaching in Tanzania, we often had monkeys visiting the classroom, no matter how many times they came in to steal crumbs from the floor the kids got distracted and excited. At the time, I was also studying to ‘BE’ a mindfulness teacher and completing a yoga teaching course, so despite feeling irritated,  I reminded myself to be present with the experience, have a 10431412_10152530791344789_4232260385897800258_obeginners mind with the visits and to see them through the children’s fresh curious eyes!

The children also used to love the large birds that perched on the telephone wires outside and sometimes we’d all just stand by the windows watching them. We’d find out what they were called, researching the photos in our small collection of bird spotting books and of course if the electricity and internet were working we’d use google.

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Lessons From the Ladybird

After the ladybird was set free,  I went back to class to tell my children about it and found out what they knew about them.  We looked at photos online of  different ladybirds, found out where they lived,  counted the different spots and introduced the word symmetry, little children love big words and there’s so many avenues still to explore. We added this learning to the slug, snails and power ranger interest zone.

Monkey Minds

Often I talk with the children about their busy monkey minds, and teach them ways to settle and calm ourselves, largely because I ‘need’ them to be quiet on the carpet.  Kids are naturally curious, playful and present, are we teaching them to be busy, distracted and stressed?

I Missed the Elephant

Whilst typing this I forgot to pay attention, the birds have been singing outside all the while and I didn’t notice –  I missed the elephant.

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Seize the day.

A PLAYce to BE

I facilitate a monthly PLAYce to BE and the next one is Saturday April 28th venue tbc, usually it’s at Clandon Wood near Guildford in Surrey or somewhere equally peacefully. Why not come along and take a couple of hours out to just BE. Info here. 

If you would like me to come and talk to your organisation about simple ways to get present, please email me jane@janetyson.co.uk.

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