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Frustration Expert

cropped-20180209_163743.jpgThe Story of IamBe

​IamBe was a Greek Goddess,  the daughter of Pan and Echo.

One day, whilst working close to the city of Athens, Iambe met Demeter. Demeter had come down to earth from the heavens, consumed with grief for the loss of her daughter Persephone, who  unknown to her had been kidnapped by Hades in the underworld.  Demeter was not eating,  drinking, talking or smiling and this was also depleting and destroying the surrounding lands. In one account,  Iambe in an act of sisterhood, connects and communicates with Demeter’s head and heart by flashing at her and telling jokes, which shocks Demeter, makes her laugh and transforms her state of grief! Demeter begins to eat, drink and smile again,  which restores balance and harmony to the lands and people around.

Feeling Frustrated? 

So why am I writing about this story?  In 2016, I developed a ‘communication, connection & collaboration’ model to create fresh perspective and  possibilities for adults and children. As  a result they experience:

💜improved inner wellbeing
💜more empowering relationships
💜less stress
💜greater clarity and focus
💜more confidence
💜improved self-esteem
💜improved productivity and efficiency
💜fewer power struggles

Play, Poetry & Possibilities

I was searching for a word to  encompass my model.   At one point, as I often do,  I looked up to the sky and requested a word and 3 days later ‘IAmBe’  arrived at Waterloo Station.

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Sipping tea and waiting for a grieving friend in a coffee shop called BeNuGo at  London Waterloo,  I considered this name, was it a play on words – be nu go? My Random Dialogues partner and I, AyPee (RIP) had also been reciting a mantra linked to our combined transformational BeSayDoHaveⒸ model:

‘I am who I say I AM
Because what I say I am
That is who I am’ Ⓒ

​So in the spaces, I questioned who ‘I am BEing’ and played with these words and created IamBE. Upon Googling it I found out she was the goddess who communicates and connects through Play and Poetry,  perfect and random, this is exactly what a #FrustrationExpert does 😉

Frustration leads to breakthroughs and more empowering changes of state.

What a great way to BE

In the meantime perhaps you are experiencing ‘frustration’ in an aspect of your grown up life.  Perhaps you are struggling to get a new idea off the ground and need an experienced mentor to sound out your ideas with. Someone to guide and help you develop your ideas. Allow me to metaphorically Flash at you and help realign you with who you are and what you LOVE to BE. 😉

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You may enjoy walking and talking with me, sitting and sipping or skyping.

Playful collaborations always considered

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NB: To BE Or Not To BE?

‘Iambic’ verse also stems from Iambe’s name and her jokes and playful nature, it was often used by Shakespeare in his plays and sonnets, an example being ‘To Be or not to Be’.

‘I Am that I Am’ the common English translation of the response God used in the Hebrew Bible when Moses asked for his name (Exodus 3:14).

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Smile and Grunt

 Can we learn to love Tech?

Do you have a morning routine to check in with yourself?

The holidays are here and I continue to be an early riser which has been a perfect way to create a longer meditation habit, which actually gives me more time across the day.   Each morning,  I sit and meditate for 40 to 60 minutes,  after which I often write out my morning pages and then enjoy some yoga, qi gong, swim or a run, which I shorten when I’m back on the school run. As the kids have got older they sleep in more and it’s easier to do this. When they were little I shortened this early morning start.  I wrote this a while back – Me before Mum.

Maybe you have something that gets you physically ad mentally ready for the day, maybe it’s sleep!

How can we create connection across the day when they are so distracted?

I’m very grateful to have a break from my teaching routine and enjoy lazy days with my children. However, these days when we are home, they seem more glued to their screens than ever before. Across the day we create a little balance and routine – I find the key is to make sure we all properly say good morning with eye contact maybe a kiss and hug!, share a smile, eat together at random times across the day,  and grunt a few loving words such as ‘I love you when would be a good time to clear a pathway in your room?’ We do have an agile routine pinned to the fridge to remind us all to create balance across the day! You might like a free copy.

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Can we Love Tech?

Recently I learned that no matter how bendy, flexible, fit, fantastic you feel etc, a true yogi is one who maintains an open heart throughout the ups and down in life.

Each morning,before I meditate,  I set an intention ‘to open and expand my heart to the vibration of love’.

That is all, it is enough.

It’s not the tech I dislike it’s the way it pulls my kids away from being present to other wonders, so I’m just learning to ‘Be’ with it as it is.

It gives me some time to also explore Taoism and learn more about QiGong and Tai Chi which in turn allows me to avoid stripping wallpaper.

I’ve got a free e-book with tips for surviving the summer holidays,  email me jane@janetysonco.uk and I’ll send you a copy.

You might also enjoy learning some of my meditation tips on the 7th September. 

Grunt, Smile, Love.

Jane x

Frustration Expert

Remote Controlled Connection

How our Children can teach Us to Relax

Yesterday my son was talking to me (well at me), we were on our way to karate and he was really excited about moving up a level to ‘spar‘ and spent a looooong time telling me all about it.   I was distracted, my mind was elsewhere on work and actually hands up, I was a little bored of listening!

My Boy-Man Brought Me Home

I took a breath and acknowledged to myself that I wasn’t with him and set an intention to BE present and enjoy his company, despite the uninsparring conversation.

I parked the car,  looked at him and checked in to where we both were,  I breathed with him and tilted my head to match his tilt, I listened to his words and brought myself to the present moment and engaged more with his  excitement and enthusiasm, I noticed my 12 year old boy-man.  I became present to BEing  with him, I sensed his energy and he bought me home again, we relaxed together, his conversation slowed and he noticed me too.

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Remote Controlled Connection

Tonight he has been teaching me how to play a PS4 game called OverWatch and again I was rather distracted and keen to get on with making tea! I once again connected with him and enjoyed his joy at spending time with me, and just how excited he was to teach me how to be in his virtual world and once more guide me out of mine.

Come learn how we use our BE SAY DO HAVE Ⓒ model and join in the conversation –

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Do you have Spring in Your Step?

A Spring Clean from the inside out

Many of us will be moving into Spring expecting to be full of energy and enthusiasm, however the reality is we are still often dragging along Winter baggage, such as coughs, colds and a few extra body pounds, just in time for the allergy season to begin too!

If you’d like a little more spring in your step – try some of these –

🌟Warm Lemon Water
Upon waking and before eating sip warm water with a the juice of 1/2 a and a little honey – this has lots of benefits including encouraging your skin to glow, a shot of Vitamin C, a digestive aid, good source of potassium and it keeps us hydrated.

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🌟Keep hydrated all day
Filter water into jugs at the start of the day so you can see how much you are drinking. Pour this into bottles and carry them around with you, have one in the car one in your bag, don’t leave in the sun though. Don’t like water? – try adding adding a squeeze of lemon, orange or cucumber slices.  Alternatively drink herbal teas.

🌟Body Brushing for a Spring Glow
Give your skin a gentle body brush starting from the knees up, brush upwards towards the  heart and if you don’t have a special brush use a dry flannel to kick start this morning habit. Body brushing helps to improve circulation and cell renewal, shed dead skin, adds a healthy glow and stimulates lymph drainage and the removal of toxins. Ideally do this for 5 to 10 minutes a couple of times a day.

🌟Self Massage
Gentle self massage is also great, you can do this with or without oils. If you do use oil use a light one such as almond mixed with grapefruit oil for improved circulation. Massage as many bits as you can reach – gently knead, twist, pat, stroke and brush. Remember your hands, feet and face too. Even better if you have a little helper, my daughter and I really love to massage each other’s feet at bedtime.

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🌟Move your body
Get out and walk and notice the Spring as it moves forward. Observe the blossom leaving, the leaves appearing, new flowers blooming and the light changing.  Maybe take a sketch book and draw 5 new things you notice, they can be rough sketches nobody will mark you. Or simply pause, breathe and and just spend some time in nature, your garden may even suffice.love spring

🌟Enjoy Yoga
Particularly sun salutations and detoxifying twists.
I’ve written a post about yoga simple ways to weave it into homelife and family too – here. I’m an Iambe practitioner and this can include teaching kids and their parents simple fun family yoga poses, so let me know if you’d like me to come over to share some Spring Asanas with you!

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🌟 Explore QiGong
It’s pretty simple to learn, excellent for developing concentration, physical strength and energy,  perhaps try the 8 Brocades for starters.  I love QiGong outdoors and in, you’ll find plenty of videos on YouTube to practice and again it’s something you can fit in around children if you are a busy parent.  I try to learn a sequence then have a go at it on my own at home or even when I’m out walking in nature, just short simple sequences here and there.

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Cross your legs or sit upright in a chair. Either gaze at something on the floor or close your eyes. Have a little check in with your body and where you are in the space in the room, allow yourself to settle a bit.  Now, notice the Spring air breath as it comes in through your nostrils and out again.  Each time your mind wanders away, which it will do, just gently and kindly bring it back again to the breathe.  Sit like this for a while, I like to set a timer for 20 to 30 minutes and do this first thing in the morning before everyone is awake. You may like to try it out on a walk, find a place to sit and be still and quiet. When you have finished notice how you feel. Create a daily habit.  If  you need any guidance let me know as I’m trained to teach mindfulness and happy to share it with you for free.  You may also enjoy this post.

🌟Reduce oily foods
Look for fresh seasonal foods – my kids are enjoying radishes at the moment in salads and with humus, a good Ayervedic Spring recommendation along with garlic, chillies and spring greens – which they aren’t so keen on! Minimise sweet, salty foods, caffeine and dairy, not so easy over Easter but that’s OK you can allo17202923_628588677340922_3634881168588647173_nw yourself to indulge it’s about finding balance.   I did once pick nettles at the allotment and created a Spring nettle soup from a Hugh Fernley recipe, it was much tastier than expected, the kids surprisingly enjoyed it too!

🌟Breathe
Take 3 long slow continuous deep belly breaths now – out with the old and inhale the new.  Right nostril breathing is also warming – I’ll share a video about this soon on my Facebook page

🌟Air your mattress 
Turn it over and even treat yourself to some new bed linen. According to Feng Shui principles, making our beds each day is important as it’s a way to declutter and put a positive Spring spin into our day.

🌟A Spring Declutter
Tidy one drawer for starters – get rid of what doesn’t serve you, or bag it up and put it in the loft if you can’t bear to loose it. Now clear another drawer …  This is a great way to mentally declutter too.

🌟Dust if You Must – Clear away the cobwebs physically and metaphorically.  Some people like to burn sage around the nooks and crannies of their homes.

I’d love to hear what you like to do to help keep you mentally, physically and spiritually energised and on top Spring form. Please do comment below.

❤️Set an intention to Step into Spring with a Spring❤️

Jane x

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Whooo Cares

A Random DiaBlog

Lessons from a Wise Owl

What does it feel like to you when your relationships are in balance, you are relaxed and calm, you have clarity,  focus, confidence, connection and you get thing done efficiently with few power struggles?

This weekend I’ve been on a truly special Connected Communications Course created and run by the wonderful and wise Lis Cashin –  2 days with very inspirational women exploring Lis’ R.E.A.L approach.

Meditation on an Owl

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Since I was a young child I’ve been fascinated with Owls, I often hear them and see them and it’s only in the last couple of years that I incorporate them into my meditation practice. I ponder them silently  and wisely watching, sensing, blinking and still, behaviours I am aware of and try to embody throughout the day.

By coming from this space of stillness and quiet we have time to notice our breath, observe and respond with grace. I wrote more about this a couple of weeks ago – take a breath.

This links in nicely with aspects of  Lis’ R.E.A.L approach,  and I’m really excited to be weaving this into my BeSayDoLove© practice with children and parents.

Whooo Cares

Practice being an owl, you might look a bit of a twit but whoo cares.

Jane #RandomDialogue

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Why not join our Meet Up group where we run a number of events & meet ups across the year for adults, kids, businesses and families.

You might also enjoy Aypee’s blog  BE SAY DO HAVE

 

Shrove Tuesday – Do you give a Toss?

 

A Message for my daughter and maybe yours too?

What is Shrove Tuesday?

Going through this week’s calendar and getting organised, I note it’s pancake day on Tuesday. I’ve taught the meaning of this to kids over the years in different schools, and remember that the word  shrove is linked to being shriven from sin. In past times there was a call to confession with the pancake bell.

Fasting

Some research suggests that people used up their store cupboard ingredients in the pancakes,  so they were eaten before the 40 fasting period of Lent. Other reading points to the ingredients having pagan symbolism.

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I feel so bad

In my youthful, naive, fresh teaching days I used to talk to the children about giving up things for Lent, ‘so kids what are you going to give up, what sins/wrongs are you committing that need to be put right?’ now I’d say ‘what’s going right for you that you could explore further, what value could you add to self ana  others?’

Stop beating yourself up

Giving up things just makes us think of them even more and we might even start to crave them and then feel ‘bad’ when we give in.  I’m rather bored of either feeling good and bad and hearing talk of feeling guilty because I ate this or did that. I’d rather not teach kids to beat themselves up. Let’s teach them about balance.  I wrote about a blog about developing an abundance mindset here.untitled-design-5

How can we ‘add’ more value?

My 10 year old daughter sometimes tells me she’s fat. I’ve been so careful about only celebrating our bodies, I’ve never spoken of going on a diet or asked whether my bum looks big in this.  Yet she’s picking up messages about image and comparcompa from all around – school, the TV, books etc. I ask her what can she do more of that’s good for her, what does she enjoy, what makes her feel good and importantly I need to role model this myself. 

Happy Tossing.

Jane x