A Random DiaBlog
How Often Do you Notice you are Dis-Trackted?
Wake Up and Smell The Trees
Whichever path you are on, remember to look up and smell the trees, take time to pause and be gentle and kind to you.
It may help to visualise roots growing from your feet holding you strong and supporting you.
Take a few nice deep breathes to slow your pace and just notice.
Someone or Something Frustrating You?
Repeat this 5 times –
Is Meditation Boring?
Are you interested in meditation? Do you have a regular practice? Would you like to give it a go but are not sure how to? I’ve heard friends say they just can’t do it, it’s impossible not to think and it’s boring!
I’ve written this as another one of my ‘How I‘ blogs and and not a ‘How To‘, with the intention that it might just give you the nudge to get started. At times, yes meditation can be boring so you explore ways to sit with the boredom, in the same way you’ll discover ays to ‘be’ with the upsets, the joy, the anger, the frustrations etc
Will Events Still Piss Me Off?
Yes. Some days I meditate for just 20 minutes and when I do my day flows well, I am more present with the ups and downs, I’m calmer with my kids and the ones I teach, and I notice I manifest more positivity. Stuff still goes on and things piss me off but for some reason it never matters so much and I’m less likely to get caught up in the drama in a negative way. I’m more neutral and sure of who I am and how I am being around it.
How I Meditate.
I wake up early anyway, so often go downstairs to the sofa cross my legs, close my eyes and just breathe and ‘be’. It is an effort because I want to do lots of other things at the same time, plus it’s cold, dark and boring to sit on the sofa on my own, yet I have so learned to love and cherish this peace and quiet and the benefits it brings. If I lay in bed it’s not quite the same as sitting up awake and present to what’s going on.
I have practiced yoga for 25 years and always enjoyed the corpse relaxation pose at the end, but never quite unerstood ‘meditation’ until about 4 years ago and now life wouldn’t ‘be’ the same.
Be Patient, Patience is Wisdom
When I was teaching out in Tanzania the school paid for me to go on a course to learn how to teach mindfulness. This week I was reading through some of the notes I took from my mentor Adam from Mindspace, and they served as a good re-MIND-er for me –
- Build up a rhythm and a regular simple practice
- ‘I’ve no time’ means I’ve no intention
- Be patient, patience is wisdom, often we think it is not working
- A bigger picture gives a lot more power to practice
- You cannot teach it unless you are doing it
- You will find it easy to make decisions and naturally have more confidence
- Meditation helps you to develop a loving kindness for others
If you’d like to learn How To there’s many apps out there to get you going, courses, lots of great books which I can also recommend, and I can also guide you.
Notice How Bored You Are
However, if this all sounds like a lot to do why not do what I do and just sit now and close your eyes and breathe and notice. And when you notice what you notice, notice a bit more and just be with what you notice. After a while you may like to just be with your breathing – in and out, in and out, in and out, in and out, in and out, and the rise and fall of your chest, the weight of your body on the chair, the touch of your skin on your clothes.
If you notice other things too like being bored, that’s OK, just notice when you do and then notice your breath again.
Try this for a while and notice whether you’d like to do it again another time and read this again as a re-MIND-er.
I slipped into a How To but it’s also How I.
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A Message for my daughter and maybe yours too?
What is Shrove Tuesday?
Going through this week’s calendar and getting organised, I note it’s pancake day on Tuesday. I’ve taught the meaning of this to kids over the years in different schools, and remember that the word shrove is linked to being shriven from sin. In past times there was a call to confession with the pancake bell.
Some research suggests that people used up their store cupboard ingredients in the pancakes, so they were eaten before the 40 fasting period of Lent. Other reading points to the ingredients having pagan symbolism.
I feel so bad
In my youthful, naive, fresh teaching days I used to talk to the children about giving up things for Lent, ‘so kids what are you going to give up, what sins/wrongs are you committing that need to be put right?’ now I’d say ‘what’s going right for you that you could explore further, what value could you add to self ana others?’
Stop beating yourself up
Giving up things just makes us think of them even more and we might even start to crave them and then feel ‘bad’ when we give in. I’m rather bored of either feeling good and bad and hearing talk of feeling guilty because I ate this or did that. I’d rather not teach kids to beat themselves up. Let’s teach them about balance. I wrote about a blog about developing an abundance mindset here.
How can we ‘add’ more value?
My 10 year old daughter sometimes tells me she’s fat. I’ve been so careful about only celebrating our bodies, I’ve never spoken of going on a diet or asked whether my bum looks big in this. Yet she’s picking up messages about image and comparcompa from all around – school, the TV, books etc. I ask her what can she do more of that’s good for her, what does she enjoy, what makes her feel good and importantly I need to role model this myself.
To Flash or not To Flash?
What do you want to BE when you grow up?
Iambe was a Greek Goddess, the daughter of Pan and Echo.
One day, whilst working close to the city of Athens, Iambe met Demeter. Demeter had come down to earth from the heavens, consumed with grief for the loss of her daughter Persephone, who unknown to her had been kidnapped by Hades in the underworld. Demeter was not eating, drinking, talking or smiling and this was also depleting and destroying the surrounding lands. In one account, Iambe in an act of sisterhood, connects and communicates with Demeter’s head and heart by flashing at her and telling jokes, which shocks Demeter, makes her laugh and transforms her state of grief! Demeter begins to eat, drink and smile again, which restores balance and harmony to the lands and people around.
So why am I writing about this story?
In 2016, I developed a ‘communication, connection & collaboration’ model for adults and children to explore fresh possibilities.
As a result they experience:
💜improved inner wellbeing
💜more empowering relationships
💜greater clarity and focus
💜 improved self-esteem
💜improved productivity and efficiency
💜fewer power struggles
I was searching for a word to encompass what my model is. At one point, as I often do, I looked up to the sky and requested a word and 3 days later ‘IAmBe’ arrived at Waterloo Station.
Sipping tea and waiting for a grieving friend in a coffee shop called BeNuGo upstairs at #Waterloo, I considered this name. Was it a play on words – be nu go? My Random Dialogues partner and I, @aypeeinstagram (RIP) had also been reciting a mantra linked to our combined transformational #BeSayDoHaveⒸ model:
‘I am who I say I AM
Because what I say I am
That is who I am’ Ⓒ
So in the spaces, I questioned who ‘I am BEing’ and played with these words and created IamBE. Upon Googling it I found out she was the goddess who communicates and connects through Play & Poetry and changes peoples state. Just what an IAmBeic Master Practitioner does😉
PS I metaphorically Flash.
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‘Iambic’ verse also stems from Iambe’s name and her jokes and playful nature and was often used by Shakespeare in his plays and sonnets, an example being ‘To Be or not to Be’.
‘I Am that I Am’ the common English translation of the response God used in the Hebrew Bible when Moses asked for his name (Exodus 3:14).