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Why Sketching Builds Resilience

What do you remember doing as a child and not really appreciating at the time, and has this influenced you now?

Is Outcome Always A Priority? 

During half term 2015, my husband Paul was away with work in Syria, so as often happens in the holidays,  I drove the kids up North to visit their older and younger cousins and spend time with my lovely sister in law, Auntie Sally, two mums working together is always so much easier than one eh.

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On this occasion we met at one of our favourite bolt holes in the Lake District, the Independent Youth Hostel at Derwent Water.   We’ve always enjoyed Youth Hostelling for the flexibility, fun and affordability.

It was also a week to celebrate Nanny Gill turning 70.  She always brings a bag of sketch books, pencils and paints,  we find the last page that someone doodled and then create a new page. It’s a collection of memories from various adults and children and always so lovely and inspiring to look back through.

Luke and Ellie laugh at my unskilled often immature drawings, I used to not sketch perhaps over concerned with the appearance. However, when I decided it’s not about the outcome but the process and experience, it became more enjoyable and relaxing.

Ways To Build Resilience

Being present to the moment, taking notice and slowing down are all ways to build the foundations of resilience and sketching is a way to encourage this.

Even better though, are shared events,  connection and belonging. Sometimes our children don’t always want to take part in activities with us, especially when they hit teenage years – wow what a totally new set of parenting skills this involves!  However these adventures are seeds that get planted, and form important life bases, though often not appreciated at the time.

Look forward to seeing your sketches and reading more of your stories too.

Jane Tyson
Solving World Problems One Mum at A Time

PS, this week’s  Random Dialogues  homework is a sketching task! We have a Facebook group too incase you would like to join us either on and/or offline.

 

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Sleep and the benefits of Bedtime Routines for children

Do your children have a bedtime ritual? 

Below is a gentle idea to soothe them before bedtime and ease them into sleep.

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A Simple Bedtime Idea

My brother in law responded to my newsletter, ‘Simple Ways To Enhance Children’s Sleep by sending over a beautiful message about his evening wind down routine. This included lighting a candle before he snuggles under his soft covers. I shared his story with my daughter.
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After she’s cleaned her teeth, my daughter lights our little buddha statue, and then settles back for a short and calming foot massage. When she was little she would enjoy calming yoga poses too.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Yesterday, my husband returned from Indonesia with stories of the recent dreadful earthquake, which we didn’t share at bedtime.

Sleep tight.

Jane

In a world of constant distraction and stimulation teaching your children the magic of silence©

Are You Paying Attention?

The simplest things in life can have the most profound effects.

Would you agree?

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Papayas Pinched by the Monkeys

Our porch in Tanzania was overlooked by a volcano called Mount Meru, breathtaking on clear days.

Monkeys would climb the papaya tree, pinching fruit, often boldly entering the house.

Grazes, rashes or burns eased with juice from the aloe vera

The children played on the grass infront, or went off on adventures around the vast school campus.

Adults strolled together through the surrounding villages and coffee plantations.

It’s not always easy to measure the impact an experience has on us.

A conversation with a stranger.

A connection with a family member or friend.

A family adventure

Are you paying attention?

Jane Tyson
Solving World Problems One Mum at a Time
#Frustrationexpert

Frustration Expert

cropped-20180209_163743.jpgThe Story of IamBe

​IamBe was a Greek Goddess,  the daughter of Pan and Echo.

One day, whilst working close to the city of Athens, Iambe met Demeter. Demeter had come down to earth from the heavens, consumed with grief for the loss of her daughter Persephone, who  unknown to her had been kidnapped by Hades in the underworld.  Demeter was not eating,  drinking, talking or smiling and this was also depleting and destroying the surrounding lands. In one account,  Iambe in an act of sisterhood, connects and communicates with Demeter’s head and heart by flashing at her and telling jokes, which shocks Demeter, makes her laugh and transforms her state of grief! Demeter begins to eat, drink and smile again,  which restores balance and harmony to the lands and people around.

Feeling Frustrated? 

So why am I writing about this story?  In 2016, I developed a ‘communication, connection & collaboration’ model to create fresh perspective and  possibilities for adults and children. As  a result they experience:

💜improved inner wellbeing
💜more empowering relationships
💜less stress
💜greater clarity and focus
💜more confidence
💜improved self-esteem
💜improved productivity and efficiency
💜fewer power struggles

Play, Poetry & Possibilities

I was searching for a word to  encompass my model.   At one point, as I often do,  I looked up to the sky and requested a word and 3 days later ‘IAmBe’  arrived at Waterloo Station.

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Sipping tea and waiting for a grieving friend in a coffee shop called BeNuGo at  London Waterloo,  I considered this name, was it a play on words – be nu go? My Random Dialogues partner and I, AyPee (RIP) had also been reciting a mantra linked to our combined transformational BeSayDoHaveⒸ model:

‘I am who I say I AM
Because what I say I am
That is who I am’ Ⓒ

​So in the spaces, I questioned who ‘I am BEing’ and played with these words and created IamBE. Upon Googling it I found out she was the goddess who communicates and connects through Play and Poetry,  perfect and random, this is exactly what a #FrustrationExpert does 😉

Frustration leads to breakthroughs and more empowering changes of state.

What a great way to BE

In the meantime perhaps you are experiencing ‘frustration’ in an aspect of your grown up life.  Perhaps you are struggling to get a new idea off the ground and need an experienced mentor to sound out your ideas with. Someone to guide and help you develop your ideas. Allow me to metaphorically Flash at you and help realign you with who you are and what you LOVE to BE. 😉

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You may enjoy walking and talking with me, sitting and sipping or skyping.

Playful collaborations always considered

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NB: To BE Or Not To BE?

‘Iambic’ verse also stems from Iambe’s name and her jokes and playful nature, it was often used by Shakespeare in his plays and sonnets, an example being ‘To Be or not to Be’.

‘I Am that I Am’ the common English translation of the response God used in the Hebrew Bible when Moses asked for his name (Exodus 3:14).

Image via https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Baubo

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#iambeic #frustrationexpert #randomdialogue

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A Random DiaBLOG on Snow Monks

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Half Term Zen

This week during half term,  we visited our friend Yeshe Trinley, a monk at the Kagyu Samye Ling Monestery in Scotland. We were staying with our cousins in Carlisle.  so it was only an hours drive away.

The Monastery really is a hidden gem, and anyone can stay or visit, it’s in the top 10 Scottish visitor attractions. It even has a a lovely coffee shop and free WiFi 🙄 There’s a wonderful selection of events on each month, so tempted by them all.

A Snow Monk

We also went for a beautiful walk with Trinley. I always have a million questions about life, the universe and conciousness and how to create world peace 🤣

Meanwhile, my children and their cousins loved playing in the snow, they were totally engaged for a good couple of hours. They made a snow monk.

And there was me distracted with Trinley learning more about how to meditate and be present and my  teachers are infront of me, already totally peaceful and playful and I’m not properly noticing!

Play is childrens’ natural state, it’s the space they create from.

No Need To Meditate Just Play!

Kids teach us how to be playful and present and we teach them how to to DO!

Notice, Breathe, Play, BE.

We are the light, we just need to remember to switch it on.

Jane x

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Happy Kids – What’s Resilience Got to Do With It?

Happy Kids – What’s Resilience Got To Do With It? 

Being a parent is the most challenging job any of us will have!   

This session is designed for curious parents who would like to explore ways they can give their child fresh possibilities to adapt to the challenges of life.

In this 3 hour session you will learn ways to – 

  • Teach your child how to adapt to frustrating times. Become their life mentor.
  • Help your child’s learning experience to become easier and more effective 
  • Become aware which parenting styles get the best for you and your children
  • Elicit calm responses with your child when you have to communicate topics which could be stressful 
  • Improve their self esteem
  • Develop enjoyable loving sibling relationships

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My workshops respond to the group dyanamic, hence they are ‘flexible’.  Take away your learning, practice and personalise it to suit your family. Come back to learn and practice some more to create together a family that can cope with change, pick themselves up and move on with everyday challenges.

Happy Parents, Happy Kids. 

£50.

The first 3 and repeating customers will enjoy our special rate of £30 

It will be held in Guildford.

Book here 

I also offer one to one programmes and support, and Skype sessions.  

Find me on Linked In –  JaneTyson.co.uk 

I’m a mum, teacher of 20 years in private, public and international settings, have a BA Hons in Education and Psychology. teach meditation and yoga to children and families and have a Life Long Passion in exploring ‘What Makes People Tick’.  

Guildford, Surrey – Book Here

Feedback from my workshops  –

‘Excellent workshop, well structured offering practical advise in an understanding and nurturing environment’

‘I just wanted to say thank you for your great advice during last workshop. Now every time I’m about to react instead of respond I see you tapping your nose and I take a deep breath’.

‘Really enjoyed the workshop and felt like I have some good ideas to remind me to be in the right frame of mind when dealing with my children’s emotions and behaviours’

‘I enjoyed the atmosphere of helping each other, suggestions and reminders’

‘It’s clear that Jane practices what she teaches’

‘A great workshop which helped me to look for ways to create a more peaceful and happy environment with my children’

‘Jane was friendly and informative. Sharing great ideas to make a happier household’

‘Thank you for the inspiration’

‘A very interesting and straight forward approach’

‘Jane was very knowledgeable and enthusiastic and keen to help’

‘The workshop was very interactive with great relevant content’

#frustrationexpert  #randdialevent

 

 

Glugs Wine, Listens to Silence

Are you Tuned in?

Just imagine being together as a family and really listening to each other, responding, and emotionally tuning in. Can you hand on heart say you do this, that nobody is distracted by anything else going on? You are truly present and in the moment… ah nice.  Then the kids have a disagreement, it escalates, and it all goes horribly wrong, (keeping it real) and it does, let’s face it.  What do you do in the eye of the storm – mum or dad in the middle?  Is their argument a result of unresolved conflict,which the kids are too upset about and maybe too immature to let go of.  Perhaps, they haven’t had a space to talk about their upset or be listened to?  Does it ever feel just a little like groundhog day?

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Decline in Listening Skills 

Research has found a significant decrease in children’s listening skills over the past decade,  can you guess why? I wonder too if this doesn’t apply to adults and sitting together as a family.  I’ve put together a ‘listening’ programme which  I’m sharing with the children and colleagues  I teach alongside  in school.

Meanwhile, parent(s) finishes meal and glugs more wine and enjoys listening to silence, and tunes out. Silent is listen rearranged.

What do you DO after a family UPSET, how does it leave you feeling and what’s that like?

What do you Need?

How do we create time for family connection, spaces to talk to one another and be heard?

Today, just become AWARE of the above.  And Pause. (a previous blog about Pausing) .  I have a photo of an owl, which reminds me to  listen, notice and be wise. Often, I think of the owl when I have a quiet time or meditate. Perhaps imagery will help you too?

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I’ll share listening ideas on my social media page this week. @FrustrationExpert

I hear you

So right now what do you need? What can make family life calmer?

Each month, I’m  creating a regular morning of family connection which will respond to your needs and those of your  family, it will be ‘agile’ and ‘flexible’ and at the moment in Guildford, venue tbc. I hear you.

What do you like best?

What could help you to disconnect from all the busyness of life, to be more present and bonded as a family? Have a read of this link here  and see what you like best about the mornings. Come along with your children to learn some of these simple skills and take them away to use with your family between sessions. You will feel more relaxed, more present to listen and this will filter across family life. Plus they’ll be ongoing support for you between meet ups. If your children prefer not to join you then come by yourself, as I’ll share ideas for you to use at home. 

Seeking Open Hearts & Curious Minds

Please do share this with any family you think would benefit from joining us. I’ve not specified ages, just a willingness to give it a go with an open heart and curious mind.

Jane x

#frustrationexpert