Can we teach our kids to do happiness?
Each day, when the children leave my class, I ask them to think of 3 things that made them happy. From experience, parents often tell me that when they ask their child what they’ve done quite often the reply is ‘nothing, ‘dunno’ can’t remember’
What 3 things have made you HAPPY today? Even if you can’t think of anything you are still creating an upward happy spiral and sending out the good hormones in your brain!
Ask your kids at the dinner table later, during bathtime or maybe at bedtime and share with them too. You might say ‘you made me me feel happy, the sun shone, I saw a bird flying, a flower blew in the breeze’
You might enjoy keeping a family happyness journal, writing post its or making a Happy Families art gallery!
If they really struggle to think of happy things that’s OK don’t push it, just keep modelling how to. And if they are ‘negative’ allow them to be so, it’s still positive that they are talking to you. Simply acknowledge their feelings ‘yes I can see you are frustrated.. sad… unhappy… give them a space and listening to talk.
Creating this space will allow the happy thoughts to come to the surface when they are ready.
I’m running a Family Workshop in September with AyPee –
How to find silence in a world so full of noise
Around this time last year, my 12 year old son started secondary school and he said to me:
‘Mum one of my favourite times in the school day is when I go to the toilets as it’s always so peaceful and quiet’
He had long corridors to navigate, friendships to bounce between, hormone surges and a bag of heavy homework. I shared with him ways he could create some space in his head in class too, instead of rushing to the loo. A year on and he’s transformed and really settled.
So how can we create some stillness and peace without sitting in the loo?
If you have questions that you’d like answered, worries on your mind, need clarity, greater focus – why not allow silence to guide you?
Listen to the sound of silence
When was the last time you listened to the sound of silence?
Why not pause and notice the softness and stillness of the space you are in right now.
At anytime during the day you can ease into this.
Pause, breathe, gradually quieten your mind and body and give your soul some peace and quiet to allow the silence to ‘source’ creative solutions to the frustrations in your life.
But there is so much noise everywhere
Yes there are noises, and there is silence and stillness from where they came. Be curious, playful and explore the silence all around you in the many layers it presents to you. Listen to the birds and notice the silence in between their songs and become aware of the silence from where the sounds come from. Allow the sounds to be there.
Is their enlightenment in silence?
Notice the silence now. How often can you become aware of it today?
If you have ‘things’ on your mind and questions you’d like answers too, ask them and in the silence let the answers arrive when they are ready to. You may find enlightenment.
Listen to this silent song for 4 minutes the composer claimed it was his favourite piece of work – 4’33’