Is Meditation Boring?
Are you interested in meditation? Do you have a regular practice? Would you like to give it a go but are not sure how to? I’ve heard friends say they just can’t do it, it’s impossible not to think and it’s boring!
I’ve written this as another one of my ‘How I‘ blogs and and not a ‘How To‘, with the intention that it might just give you the nudge to get started. At times, yes meditation can be boring so you explore ways to sit with the boredom, in the same way you’ll discover ways to ‘be’ with the upsets, the joy, the anger, the frustrations etc
Will Events Still Piss Me Off?
Yes. Some days you might meditate for just 20 minutes and the day might flow well, you’ll probably be more present with the ups and downs, calmer with your family, colleagues etc Stuff still goes on and things might piss you off but it might not matter quite as much. Feelings might be more neutral and a sureness of who you are and how you are being around it.
How I Meditate.
I wake up early anyway, so often go downstairs to the sofa cross my legs, close my eyes and just breathe and ‘be’. It is an effort because I want to do lots of other things at the same time, plus it’s cold, dark and boring to sit on the sofa on my own, yet it’s a great time for peace and quiet and the benefits it brings. Laying in bed is not quite the same as sitting up awake and present to what’s going on.
I have practiced yoga for 25 years and always enjoyed the corpse relaxation pose at the end, but never quite understood ‘meditation’ until about 4 years ago and now life wouldn’t ‘be’ the same.
Be Patient, Patience is Wisdom
When I was teaching out in Tanzania the school paid for me to go on a course to learn how to teach mindfulness. This week I was reading through some of the notes from my mentor Adam from Mindspace, and they served as a good re-MIND-er for me –
- Build up a rhythm and a regular simple practice
- ‘I’ve no time’ means I’ve no intention
- Be patient, patience is wisdom, often we think it is not working
- A bigger picture gives a lot more power to practice
- You cannot teach it unless you are doing it
- You will find it easy to make decisions and naturally have more confidence
- Meditation helps you to develop a loving kindness for others
If you’d like to learn How To there’s many apps out there to get you going, courses, lots of great books which I can also recommend, and I can also guide you.
Notice How Bored You Are
However, if this all sounds like a lot to do why not do what I do and just sit now and close your eyes and breathe and notice. And when you notice what you notice, notice a bit more and just be with what you notice.
After a while you may like to just be with your breathing – in and out, in and out, in and out, in and out, in and out, and the rise and fall of your chest, the weight of your body on the chair, the touch of your skin on your clothes.
If you notice other things too like being bored, that’s OK, just notice when you do and then notice your breath again.
Try this for a while and notice whether you’d like to do it again another time and read this again as a re-MIND-er.
I slipped into a How To but it’s also How I.
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