A Message for my daughter and maybe yours too?
What is Shrove Tuesday?
Going through this week’s calendar and getting organised, I note it’s pancake day on Tuesday. I’ve taught the meaning of this to kids over the years in different schools, and remember that the word shrove is linked to being shriven from sin. In past times there was a call to confession with the pancake bell.
Some research suggests that people used up their store cupboard ingredients in the pancakes, so they were eaten before the 40 fasting period of Lent. Other reading points to the ingredients having pagan symbolism.
I feel so bad
In my youthful, naive, fresh teaching days I used to talk to the children about giving up things for Lent, ‘so kids what are you going to give up, what sins/wrongs are you committing that need to be put right?’ now I’d say ‘what’s going right for you that you could explore further, what value could you add to self ana others?’
Stop beating yourself up
Giving up things just makes us think of them even more and we might even start to crave them and then feel ‘bad’ when we give in. I’m rather bored of either feeling good and bad and hearing talk of feeling guilty because I ate this or did that. I’d rather not teach kids to beat themselves up. Let’s teach them about balance. I wrote about a blog about developing an abundance mindset here.
How can we ‘add’ more value?
My 10 year old daughter sometimes tells me she’s fat. I’ve been so careful about only celebrating our bodies, I’ve never spoken of going on a diet or asked whether my bum looks big in this. Yet she’s picking up messages about image and comparcompa from all around – school, the TV, books etc. I ask her what can she do more of that’s good for her, what does she enjoy, what makes her feel good and importantly I need to role model this myself.